Sex Query of the Week: My Small Penis Is Making Me Insecure; Will I Be Able to Satisfy My Wife Sexually?

I am a 30-year-old man and I am upset about my penis size. My penis is two inches when flaccid and a little over three inches when erect. I read somewhere that the average penis size is over five inches and I am nowhere close to it. I am to get married in a few months and I have been a virgin until now. My fiancée and I have never been physically intimate although she wanted to. The truth is I am insecure about my penis length and my sexual performance. I feel if I have sex with her before marriage, she might call off our wedding. My friends have not been too helpful and they are adding to my insecurity, saying no woman would want a man with a penis this small. I am terrified of how my future sex life would turn out to be. Please help!

Ans: Most men are insecure about their penis size. The length and girth of a man’s penis are considered to be proportional to his manliness. The prevailing belief is that longer a man’s penis, the more sexually satisfied the woman is. But there’s more to just penis size when it comes to sexually satisfying a woman. Micropenis: Does Small Penis Mean Bad Sex Life?

The British Journal of Urology International conducted a study to understand the average penis size. Average flaccid size is 3.6 inches and erect is a little over five inches. Similarly, the girth is 3.6 inches when flaccid and 4.5 inches when erect.

But don’t go by the numbers alone. Sexual satisfaction doesn’t depend only on  penis size. Women are more concerned about the girth of the penis than the length, according to a BMC Women’s Health study. How to Increase Sperm Count with Diet: 10 Best Foods to Improve Men's Fertility and Sex Drive.

Plenty of studies and personal testimonies of women prove that multiple factors ranging from attentiveness to confidence determine their sexual satisfaction. Men who score highly in bed are ones who have good foreplay skills and are attentive towards women’s sexual needs.

Very few women experience vaginal orgasms. A majority of women need clitoral stimulation, which doesn’t depend on penis length. So even if you have a small penis, you can make your woman orgasm by focusing on foreplay and giving her the right clitoral stimulation.

And if you want to make your woman climax vaginally, here’s more good news. The G-spot is situated two inches inside the vaginal walls. So if you are over two inches while erect, you can easily stimulate it with your penis during penetration. That’s not all. A larger penis make sex difficult and more painful for women.

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