Q. I am a 28-year-old man in a relationship with a 21-year-old college girl. We are having a great time together for the past two years and we have amazing sexual chemistry as well. However, I have recently encountered an issue where I see that whenever I go down on my girl, she doesn't enjoy it as much as I think she does and most of the time tries to get over with the oral sex part. While she has never complained about me going down on her, I don't see her enjoy it either. In fact, I feel that I somehow end up unintentionally hurting her down while trying to perform oral sex on her. Could I have been making some mistakes? What is the right way to give women oral sex? Performing Oral Sex on a Woman is ‘Nutritious’ Thanks to Good Bacteria in the Vagina, And it’s Science-Backed!

Ans. The art of going down on a woman can sometimes get difficult for men to master. Especially when women are quite shy about their erogenous points down there, it is important to know and understand the anatomy of the woman's private part and to understand what they will like the most. Here's how you should go down on a woman to give her the best orgasm. Sex Query of the Week: Can I Get STD From Oral Sex? How to Stay Safe.

Tips to go down on a woman, the right way:

Start Slow

You must remember that, the right build-up is key and you must take your time exploring her lady parts. Check her vagina out before getting onto her clitoris. Wait before you go rough on her vagina, have a slow start and work your way further.

Lick her down there gently

With being rough down there we don't mean to say that you hurt her genitalia. Be gentle down and start with licking the overall area softly, maybe tickle her a bit your tongue. What are Dental Dams? Why You Should Use Protection While Performing Oral Sex on Women.

Try out different erogenous areas

Lick and tease her with your tongue all around and pay attention to what she likes the most. Once you figure out what she likes the most, focus on that area and keep teasing.

Suck her right

Once you have tried licking and teasing go on to sucking her clit and the area around. Many women also like their whole vagina to be sucked. Use your lips you suck her vagina gently and once you figure out what she likes the most just go about it.

Experiment

If you are seeing something is not working, change the strategy. There may be times when you see her not responding well to how you eat her vagina, try out something different and check her reactions again.

Check her reactions

Don't make it extremely obvious or it will make her conscious but do take hints. Many women aren't expressive about what they like, so it is important to check for their facial expression to figure out what they like.

Don't Forget Fingering

Give licking and teasing a break once in a while and go for fingering. Keep switching so that you provide variations in what you're doing.

Blowing air (Breathing)

Have you tried breathing gently towards her vagina? This trick works wonders. Breath can be highly stimulating.

Why Conversation Is The Key After Oral Sex

Do not try out what you have learned from porn with her. Talk to her about what she likes and doesn't. Nobody else, better than your partner can tell it to you, how she feels about you going down and what she wants. Ask her if she is open to experimentation or not and if there are times you are going overboard.

Sexpert Explains How To Give Oral Sex The Right Way To Women:

Another thing that you must keep in mind is that every woman is different and their sexual preferences differ according to therefore without good communication with your partner, you might not be able to make her orgasm the right way. Talk to her about it and if you don't want to have a direct conversation, make it a part of your dirty talking.

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