Relationships can be quite messy. If you’ve been looking for answers to your relationship problems, you’ve come to the right place. In this column we address some of the most common (and mostly uncommon) relationship queries that are hindering your equation with your partner. When approached with the right perspective and attitude, you can repair your messy relationship, get rid of the toxicity and have a successful run ahead! Let’s take a look at the relationship query for today.

Is It Okay To Get Upset Over a Break-Up That Happened Two Years Ago?

This Reddit user happened to speak to one of his exes on social media after a gap of two years. It so happens that he still feels upset about how the relationship turned sour and ended on a bad note. He still has feelings for her and finds it hard to come to terms with their current equation, even after much time has passed by.

A. Dear Mr. Hung Up,

You say you have feelings for her and they wouldn’t still be there had you not been that intensely involved. Now, you talk to your ex every once in a while on social media but do you think she feels the same way too? If she has been giving you signals of getting back together or has been flirting with you, you could always rekindle the romance and start dating again.

However, before you do that, you need to address how your relationship ended two years ago. You say it was pretty “ugly” and “bad” which clearly means there’s a lot of cleaning up to do. It’s great that you both got past the ugly break- up and started talking again but those issues remain unattended to till date. In order to start a (healthy) friendship or a relationship with her, you both need to sort out your issues first. And please, don’t let that happen over social media.

This relationship has certainly had adverse effects on you since you say you’ve been suffering from depression and extreme anxiety after it fell apart. So before you even think of expressing your feelings to her, you definitely need to seek emotional and mental help. Consulting a counselor or a therapist will help you understand not just yourself but also how you feel for her. Like you mentioned that it all ended on a bad note, maybe that’s something that your mind and heart and never been able to cope with. In order to bring yourself at peace and get some clarity on this, you definitely need to seek professional help.

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