Are you in a long-distance relationship and missing the physical intimacy with your partner? Or are you physically exhausted with your hectic work schedule and keep canning on your loved one? Whatever the reason, we have found a way to spice up your sex life. It may sound corny and cheesy, but it is one of the greatest ways to enjoy physical pleasure without getting physical. Yes, you guessed it right. We are talking about phone sex. It is a great way to juice up the intimacy quotient. Are you feeling shy and awkward at the thought of initiating phone sex? Well, we have got you covered and help you steer clear all the inhibitions that are coming your way. Brace yourself and be ready to get turned on.

Tips for Great Phone Sex

Plan beforehand: Although usually phone sex can be spontaneous, but if it’s your first time to indulge in the act, you want to have a memorable experience. Hence, you can plan your schedule so that everything goes well. Make sure that you and your partner are up for it (who wouldn’t be?) and that you find a suitable time and place when you both are alone and ready to let go of your reticence. You can also discuss what you are expecting to happen during the phone sex before you even start.

Set the mood: Some people feel silly and tense before the call. You might want to prep yourself so that you feel comfortable and are looking forward to the call. Build up the excitement that you have been containing inside yourself and release the extra tension. Maybe have a drink or walk around or even jump standing in front of the mirror. Set up a sexy atmosphere, dim the lights, wear sexy clothes if that gets you in the groove, have a shower or play some sensual music. Prepare a mental check-list of what you want to do and feel happy imagining about your first or many sexual encounters you’ve had with your partner.

Initiate the talk: Getting started is possibly the hardest part for many people (especially for first-timers). You can always chat before you get on the call. It works for some people. Start with a casual topic. For e.g., what are you doing, what are you wearing, how much you miss them and so on and so forth. Once you get comfortable with each other, escalate to bolder topics. Be as descriptive as possible. It totally depends on individual how fast they want to raise the bar of their conversation.

The voice: A low, soft tone with heavy breathing can help set the mood. If you want to try a sexy and unusual voice, go ahead, but don’t make it sound unnatural. Remember, that your partner loves you and your personality. Accents and changing the pitch of your voice is just temporary. Breathe and speak comfortably in your normal tone. It will be sexier than an awkwardly forced attempt at sounding sexy.   

Pay attention: Your partner will give you subtle hints of what he/she interests in doing. Some people forebear to speak their interests because certain fetishes are frowned upon and they may hesitate to say it out loud. Understand what your partner is trying to tell you and take it forward if the other is not being vocal about it.

Don’t rush: Phone sex is supposed to be easy and free-flowing. This is the ultimate tease and you need to be slow and take your time. Describe each word or movement explicitly. Build up the pressure and curiosity in another person. The delay technique will drive your partner wild.

Explore ideas & fetishes: Phone sex is good way to know what your partner wants sexually or what they fantasize about. There are some things that are difficult to communicate face-to-face, but you want to fantasize about it. Use the opportunity of phone sex as an outlet. Don’t make your partner feel bad, gross or silly for what they’re wanting and do not shut them down.

Role-play: In the realm of imagination, anything is possible. It is your chance to role-play scenarios that you have never done or will never be able to do it. In fantasy, you get to be whatever you like, a superhero, a Rockstar, or more. Set the scene according to the character you choose. It is just like a bed-time story but involved with lust and sensuality. Be as vivid as possible. Ever imagined having sex in zero-gravity? Well, it is possible when you are having phone sex. You can even read out an erotic story. It is difficult to understand on phone whether you are making it up or it’s real.

Don’t be afraid to laugh: Sex can get quite ticklish sometimes. If while having phone sex, you feel like laughing or giggling, don’t be afraid. People get turned on even more because they know that you are enjoying and are in the moment. Tell your partner what you are laughing about and what is happening to you. Tell them if your face is flushed or your heart is pounding, or you are having heebie-jeebies.

Make more noise than usual: Nobody gets aroused by a silent lover in reality, let alone during phone sex. Be vocal as you could possibly be. Heavy breathing and moaning will make it an exciting experience that culminates in a climax. Make sounds how you would if you were actually kissing your partner or biting his neck or ears.

Finish: It depends on you when you want to finish. You don’t need to wait for an orgasm. But mutual masturbation and orgasm are excellent additions to phone sex. You are under no obligation to masturbate if your partner wants to and you don’t want to. On the other hand, before masturbating alone, ask your partner if he/she would like to join you. If you reach an orgasm before your partner does, don’t go quiet. Continue talking to them till reach their climax or get an orgasm. Before ending the call, catch your breath and talk normally for a while. Let your partner know how much you enjoyed yourself before you end the call.

Many people think that phone sex is just dirty talking. What they don’t understand that brain is the biggest sexual organ in the body. Phone sex can be surprisingly a sexy avenue to explore to perk things up. It can add a good mix if your sexual life has become mundane or you are in a long-distance relationship.

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