Does this story sound familiar? You were seeing someone and were perfectly happy. You did silly "couple" stuff like kiss in movie halls and go for mushy dinners. A few months passed and you asked the inevitable question: "Were they serious about you?" They said they never committed, and so you broke up. One year passed and now they want to get back. It is possible to be more successful in round two, provided you approach it the right way.
Be an Open Book
It’s a bad idea to get back with an ex if there’s any unfinished business hanging over your heads. Be real this time around. Place all your cards on the table and be very vocal about what you exactly want from your relationship. Ask yourself about your expectations and convey the same to your partner. His response will give you an idea about what you are heading for in the relationship.
Take It Slow
Most second chance relationships fail because couples assume they can just slip back into the way things were. We understand that you can't contain the texts and the sex, but don't go around posting pictures on Instagram or hurry with taking them home to meet your parents. Slow it down and take time before you put a label on your relationship again. Gift Ideas For Your Ex: 5 Things You May Want to Surprise Your Former Partners With!
Start Fresh
We are sure you knew every detail about your partner but things change with time. While it is impossible to start afresh because you dated in the past, it is very important to recognise that it is the rekindling of an old relationship. It’s really important to nurture this relationship just as you would with any new romance. Ask them about their adventures in the past few years without you. Maybe they have developed a new interest in music or maybe they travelled endlessly. This will help you learn what you were missing.
Identify the Reason of Getting Back
Did you have a horrible experience with your last date or do you think there is something healthy worth pursuing with your ex? If the former is true, it is not a great reason to run back to your ex. However, if the latter is true, you may be up for a great adventure together. Cheated On Your Partner? Here's How to Save Your Relationship and Feel Less Awful.
Address Old Issues
It is likely that your old fights and problems will crop up in your dinner table. While you do not have to re-enact your old fights, talking about it will help you avoid another round of a fight in the future.
Forgive and Forget
If your ex cheated on you in the past, you have to be really willing to give them another chance. It is perfectly normal to have wounds but to be able to forgive can help you respectfully forget another unhealthy cycle of criticism. However, if you could not really forgive, it can make more sense to hold off for a bit. Opening up old wounds for the sake of a quick win will only damage your chances of making things work. Looking For a Home for Live-In Relationships in India? Try These Online Home Rental Platforms.
In the end, remember that things will not be very different this time around. For instance, if you hated their habit of turning up late, odds are, you are going to deal with it again. So make sure they are worth the time and effort.
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