Settling into a new relationship has its challenges. But there isn’t a challenge quite like being the second person in your partner's life. While you may constantly tend to compare yourself with their exes, the smartest thing to do is to take lessons from their past mistakes. It is easy to deal with first world problems like their erratic schedule and lifestyle habits. But if you want to crack the real deal and avoid any ugly brawl in the future, learn from their exes. Be a keen listener and do not hesitate to dig into horror stories of their past. You will be able to win her heart by not repeating the same mistakes.

1. They Were Immature

A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience showed that women are instinctively attracted to mature males. But turns out that it has become a Herculean task to find tough, alpha males. Many studies back that men fall behind when it comes to emotional maturity. So if they are complaining about their juvenile ex, you might just want to keep away the X-box and learn how to cook some meals to help her in her household chores. How to Make a Relationship Work with Someone Who Has a Different Political View? 5 Tips for Couples.

2. They Did Not Kiss or Caress Enough

Everyone enjoys a good lovemaking session. Nobody likes to get straight to the action and get done in seconds.  So if they make a point that their exes did not caress or kiss them enough, it probably played a role in their downfall. We are not asking you to break any records, simply them enough to keep 'em happy.  If you really do not want to let them go, make them as happy as possible during your intimate sessions.

3. They Liked To Debate and Critisise

Women have a lot of loathing for men who try to critisise them and put them down. So if they are sharing their problems with you, empathise with them instead of pin-pointing their mistakes. Place your hand on their back or caress their head when you are offering some advice to your partner. The skin-to-skin contact can trigger the release of the love hormone oxytocin, which can help you bond. Just change your ways (of discussion) and they will never misunderstand you. Cheated On Your Partner? Here's How to Save Your Relationship and Feel Less Awful. 

4. They Had Unhealthy Food Habits

Recent studies found that most break-ups are a result of conflicting diets. Having different food choices might sound exciting at the beginning, but when you start to have a few meals together or when you begin to live in, you will discover how many times you are having to fight for "food". So try and cut down on your unhealthy food habits to avoid any disagreement on the dinner table.

5. They Sided the Family

You may know this too well that too many cooks spoil the food. Yes, it is normal to not be on the same page as your parents, but you should know how to handle your scuffles. So if they mention any history of the past, assure them that, they will always be your first priority. Yes, we understand that this can be a tough one, but it can help them feel super secured with you. Is She The Right One For You? Man Creates Dating Guide 'Nails At First Sight,' Which Analyses Girls Based on Their Nails!

Past relationships can influence future ones because they set different kinds of expectations. If they were not treated well in the past, they would want someone who treated them better, and if they were treated wonderfully, they would want to retain that standard.

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