Does it Matter if You're a Virgin? – Sex Query of the Day

Thinking of losing your virginity to your high school boyfriend? Hooking up with your Tinder date for the first time? In this column, we answer some of the most common (and mostly uncommon) sex queries that will help you get to the next base quite easily without any hassle! Let's take a look at the sex query of today.

Does it Matter if You're a Virgin?

A 20-year-old Reddit user wonders if her being a virgin can affect her relationship with the guys she goes out on dates. She likes the men she hooks up with but not to an extent where she feels like having sex with them. So, Does the virgin thing matter? and if so when does it matter?

A. Dear 20-year-old virgin,

From what it sounds like, you seem to have a lot of pressure about the whole 'having sex for the first time' thing. First of all, before addressing your query, you're never too old to have sex. It's all about how you feel about it and how you approach it. If you find a person attractive enough and want to hook up with him on the first date itself, with his consent, you can take the big step. If you feel that its maybe too early to have sex with him and that you need to know him better to take it forward, that's totally, absolutely okay too.

Its true there can be a lot of peer pressure sometimes because all you hear in college and high school is how one of your friends lost their virginity to their boyfriend. Of course it all sounds fun, interesting and kinda cool but that doesn't really mean you give into the pressure and randomly hook up with someone just so that you can fit into that category where you can brag about your "first time". We're all wired differently. Maybe you want to take it slow. Maybe you want to get to know the guy in an out first, have a connection, a bond with him and then eventually lose your virginity to him. So, the point here is, it doesn't matter whether you go out on several dates with different guys or date one guy and go out with him on several dates; what matters is, you lose your virginity when you're ready. It's as simple as that.

Moving on to your next query. There's no hard and fast rule that you have to tell the guys you date about your virginity. It's something very personal and unless a topic like that doesn't come up, you don't necessarily need to give a "statutory warning" about it.

How do you not let this limit you? It shouldn't and it cannot. Just focus on having great conversations and having a fun time together than revolving your attention around it because honestly speaking, it isn't a big deal. Just go out on dates, meet new people, build a connection with them and let things fall into place on their own.

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