Cheating Can save Your Relationship, Says Sexpert! What to Do When Your Lover Cheats

Finding out that your romantic partner has been cheating on you can be heartbreaking, for many, it is an absolute deal-breaker. Sometimes we become so obsessed with our partners that our first reaction to them cheating is anger, often to an unfathomable extent. But can we do something about it? Recently, an Australian sex therapist Matty Silver claimed that cheating can actually improve your relationship. Since, the claim may contradict popular belief,  this opinion may be a little hard to digest for many. However, the more you understand it, you'll realise that forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give to yourself. Indonesian Man Catches Cheating Girlfriend, Announces Breakup With Her on Ad Billboard, View Pic!

Showing a different side to cheating, sex therapist explains how you can figure different unanswered questions about your relationship by getting into the roots of the problem. Matty said to news.com.au: "Starting to understand an affair and how it happened can help provide clarity and give answers to the many questions a couple may feel are still unanswered." She further said, "This is not about assigning blame, but a time to deconstruct the affair and find out where the roots of the infidelity started." Difference Between Flirting and Cheating: 5 Signs That You Have Crossed the Line.

This mature way of tackling relationships provides a different perspective on the problem of infidelity. However, when it comes practically applying it in real life, it may be quite challenging to get in terms with a cheating partner.

What To Do When You Find out Your Partner is Cheating on You?

Find Ways To Control Your Anger: The first step towards making things better both for yourself and your partner is to control your anger. If yoga does the trick for you, go for it. But remember that anger and resent will only give you pain.

Talk To Your Partner: Communication is everything in this situation. Communicate with your partner about what made him/her do it. What went wrong between the two of you that he/she had to take such a drastic step. Even if you don't get a legitimate reason from your partner, keep your cool. Understand that if they wanted someone else at that point of time, nothing you or anyone could have done to change it.

Make a Mutual Decision: Bring your conversation to a conclusion and make a decision. Abide by the decision and work towards it together. There is nothing that cannot be solved when you communicate well with each other, keeping resentment aside.

Forgive and Move On: Someone rightly said, "Forgiveness is bliss." Not only will forgiving your partner make you the bigger person, but also give you freedom from negative feelings.

One thing that you must remember is that, somebody else cheating on you is not your fault. Whatever happened was beyond your control, and you should be the last one suffering because of it. Love yourself.

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